Ways To Forgive Someone Who Hurts You
Wednesday, February 29th, 2012You always own certain things in life that are extremely valuable to you. Certain people in whom you had unconditional faith betrayed you in a manner one could never even think of. Your most precious things were taken away from you and hence forth life could never be the same. Every day one lives with the pain of flashbacks, bitter thorns; feelings of how could things end up on a more different note.
Being humans we all suffer pain during the life course. Pain can be cause by anything, be it rape, murder, abuse, or may be simple betrayal. No one becomes unique if that person suffers from pain. Even though sometimes the pain of loss is so pinching that it becomes difficult to put it into words. As a result all we get is a feeling of bitterness, than walls all around us and enables us to make connections with the part of our mind, body and soul that we have lost. It is irrational yet we expect the person who wounded us to suffer.
The only way to leach oneself out of that prison is through forgiving that respective person. In a case study, while I was going through it. I read as to how a girl forgave two guys who had hurt her extremely and in spite of forgiving them strait at that very point of time she still kept struggling for a couple of years ahead to trust someone else she met.
Then I realized that the key to forgiveness is not when someone hurts you and you just out rightly forgive the person. That would never heal your wound completely. This is because every time the old memories and flashbacks will strike you, it would deepen your wound all over again. Thus the only way to forgive someone forever and save yourself from the ocean of sorrows is through persistent forgiveness. Every time that person or even is reminded to you, you ought to forgive that person all over again. Keep forgiving till you are not overcome with that incident and those happenings in your life.
The simplest way is to follow the process of forgiveness. Firstly one needs to know what hurt him, who were the people involved and wrong did they brought to that person. Then you must try to understand the reason behind their action and their motive behind doing so. Further on you realize as to what unforgiveness has done or what it might do if it still continues the same way. Then one must choose to forgive. This can be done in any way may be by writing a journal or say a letter.
Next you sit down with the person and tell him as to what action or deed of his hurt you. For complete forgiveness one needs to be totally open. Realize how the person reacts to your response to his mistake and if he still has issues than that’s certainly not your problem. Next, to pray good for that person and ask god to bless that person always. Lastly you meditate the words of god and preach their lessons of forgiveness all the time. This helps you not only to completely the forgiveness process but also stop from the old memories coming back to your mind.
, your past will keep on haunting you and nobody likes that. You’re actually doing yourself a favor by forgiving yourself.